my uncle died last Saturday. I did not know him that well, but he was my father’s brother and my father almost fell apart. So I went to the funeral even though to tell the truth I did not want to.
My father’s family has gone off it’s own way since the death of my grandmother. As my aunt says my grandparents raised 6 very independent people who do not need any one else. So now that my grandmother has been dead to many years now we have all driffted.
with the death of my uncle 4 of the living 5 were together for the first time since the death of their parents. Over the years there have been many fights and people who said they would never talk to one another again. Yet here they are. Sitting at the same table, laughing, crying talking about old times and telling each other, “I’m sorry,” and, “I love you.”
My Aunt Paula, who I have not talked to in ages and who would not even hug me when i was younger gave me the biggest hug i had had in a while. I think i like this woman! We have never gotten along, i think it took me becoming a strong bitter woman to learn to love her. I think i will be much like her when i am 70.
so now as of next year we are going to have our yearly family reunions again. We always have them in the family grave yard. That way the whole family can be together.
Since my youngest aunt can not have children it seems I am to inherit her family duties of being in charge of family photos some day as well.
None of this would have happened if not for Bill’s death. It is sad that the only memorable thing bill did in my lie is bring our family back together. I am glade to have these people back in my life! i look forward to the reunion and letting my kids meet them.
My aunt (bill’s wife) my even come to texas this june since that is when we normally have our family reunion. she plans to stop in and say hi to me. When I was young i was very close to her. It meant allot to her also that I was the only one of her nieces that was there. In fact i was the only one of my cousins who was there other than Bill’s kids. In fact I i was the only one of my age group staying in that house. Every one was 45 and up or 15 and down!
So i sat with the old people and heard stories of them all when they were young. All my family is happy to hear i will be headed into the funeral industry also….
It was funny to go to a funeral with a bunch of people who was raised in a funeral home. The owner of the place spotted me right away too. He asked when i was starting school. I asked how he knew. He said he was 70 been doing this most of his life. He could tell. I told him i hope to start Jan.
The embalming job was AMAZING!!!!!! one of the best I have ever seen. I made a point to compliment the embalmer too. He was surprised and said that was the first time someone of the family pointed of the fine details of a good embalming. I could tell that meant allot to him.
Is it weird that i noticed that? hope not, but hey i hope someday I can do work that good!
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